拿得起，放得下

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I've never been lucky in assignments related to wakes. Went to my third wake-related assignment at Hougang today, and got rejected by the deceased's family when I requested for press interview.

Yes, they have the right to turn me down and we respect their privacy. But still, I felt quite guilty for giving my supervisors such disappointing answers, cos I think this story is "do-able". The deceased died of some sudden illness and it would be good to inform our readers about such experiences, so that they can prevent similar incidents from occurring.

The deceased aunty was a nice lady. After rejecting us, she came to apologise and did some explanations. They didn't want to rake over old ashes --those painful and traumatising memories.

I am very grateful to her for that, cos I've met other interviewees who were really rude and hostile and self-complacent. Sometimes, Singaporeans ought to be more polite to journalists..

Anyway, I was still a little upset when I got back into the car. Photog Yanyan, who's sitting on the rear passengers' seat, sent me an sms that reads:

当你懂得放下，
当你学会取舍，
当你转身回头望，
很多是只不过是你心中无理的执著而已，
打开你的心窗吧，
当你无法呼吸时... ...

Wanna thank her for that. At least she knew how I felt.